Thursday, May 20, 2010

10 Years... a re-post of sorts

I originally posted this about our 8 year wedding anniversary. As much as I'd like to write a whole new post, I think this one sums it up perfectly. So I've re-posted it with a few minor changes. It has also been cross-posted on my other blog

It took me about 5 minutes to walk down the aisle at my wedding. No, I didn't panic with a case of cold feet. Nor did I trip and fall flat on my face (the more likely of the two scenarios). Fred and I got married on the beach in Carmel, CA, and the aisle was seriously that long. It was a beautiful, temperate day on the California coast, and I had a lot to contemplate as I tromped towards the beach in my two inch heels. Did I look every bit the part of a blushing bride? Do I have enough SPF's to get me through the ceremony? Can they see my underwear through this dress? Hey, look... bugs having sex!

Sometimes I can be as deep as a puddle.

You'll notice nowhere in there were there thoughts about the huge journey I was about to embark on. I think I was a pretty naive 23 year old who looked at marriage as something you did. Did you love the guy? Sure! So why not get married. There were no thoughts of, "what kind of father will he be? What do I want out of marriage? What is my role as a wife?" Amazingly enough, I gave no thoughts about any expectations I had about married life.

Ten years later, what could have been a disastrous decision, turned out to be one of the best things I've ever done. I believe that there isn't anyone out there better suited for me, and I cannot imagine a better, more fun man to travel life's roads with.

He loves me despite my many quirks. Even better, he embraces them and doesn't try to change me. He is one of the hardest workers I've ever met, and has never complained once over the last 10 years that our family relies on him, and him only as our income source. Although our senses of humour are very different, he still cracks me up on a daily basis.

If you are lucky enough to call him your friend, you know how he goes the extra mile for the people he loves. If you asked for the shirt off of his back, he would give it to you. And his pants. And, if it wasn't so gross, probably his underwear too.

He doesn't get my love for Lost, but will watch it with me... mainly because it's in HD. He will sometimes show up at lunchtime during a weekday and bring me Chick-fil-a. On Sunday, he mopped the floors for me. I know he loves me and will do almost anything to make me happy. We're talking about a guy who has flown to 5 different states to see my favourite band 8 different times. Love? I think so!

Above all else, he is a wonderful, Godly man. He knows he isn't perfect, but tries his best to live his life according to God's word. He is an amazing example to our little girl of what a husband should be.

After Elise was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, Fred stepped up to the plate in a way that not every husband does. Is most cases, 100% of the care falls to the wife, and a lot of husbands don't even try to get involved. Call it laziness, call it denial. Whatever it is, Fred does not suffer from it. He is totally involved in Elise's care, and has taken on doing the twice-nightly blood sugar checks (we have to check Elise during the night to catch dangerous, life-threatening low blood sugars). Our daughter would not be doing as well as she is, if it wasn't for her Poppa and his diligence to her care.

Over the past 14 years (4 years dating, 10 married), we have gone hot air ballooning, driven through Europe, rafted 10 rivers, bought a house, hiked in Hawaii, been extras on an X-Files episode, racked up over $75,000 worth of debt, paid off over $75,000 worth of debt, skied Jackson Hole, jumped off a 30 foot cliff, made a beautiful daughter together, been to hell and back, and now are about to expand our family by one more.

I am so thankful for our marriage. I feel blessed beyond all measure to call Fred my best friend, father of our daughter and soon-to-be-born son, and best of all... my husband.


  1. That is an AWESOME post honoring such a special man and a wonderful marriage. Happy 10th Anniversary!

    You 2 are truly blessed!

    BTW - Ummmm . . . were you wearing makeup on your wedding day?? :)

  2. Love the post Joanne! Congratulations on 10 years of marriage!

  3. Ha ha Laura... yes I am actually wearing make-up! I had to buy it just for the wedding because I didn't own any!

  4. Well worth the repost! You are an awesome writer and a lucky girl. :)
    Happy Anniversary!

  5. That was a wonderful tribute to your husband...he sounds like an amazing person!

    Congrats on the 10 years, the new baby and to your beautiful expanding family :)

  6. Love the post and the pics that went along with it. Congratulations on 10 years - I have to say that you two are a wonderful couple.

  7. Happy 10th Anniversary!!!!

    What a wonderful tribute to your hubby! I love what you said about not really having given any thought to what you expected from marriage... you were just sort of in the moment. I GET THAT! I was also married at 23.... 7 years ago. I had NO CLUE what I was doing. God was watching out for both of us apparently! =)

  8. What a beautiful post !!! It says alot about you too how you value fred and your family which is the way it should be god bless you .

  9. He sounds like a keeper! Congratulations on 10 years!

    We used to live in Monterey, and I miss it so much. Pretty much every week I would beg my husband to take me to Carmel beach!

  10. First of all, your wedding pic is GORGEOUS!!! Happy anniversary to two awesome people! I'm blessed to know you.

    And my hubby watches Lost too, even though he isn't obsessed like me. (and you :)

  11. I'm a few days late here, but the sentiment is sincere: happy anniversary! Fred sounds awesome! :)


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