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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

A re-post

When I announced on my other blog almost a year ago, that I was going to start a new blog all about having a baby with type 1 diabetes, I was nervous and excited. I had finally found an outlet for all the emotions that were boiling up inside of me. It felt good. It felt right.

And then I received my very first nasty comment. And it sent me reeling. How could someone who had never met me, and had no idea what I was going through, be so judgemental? I had been fortunate so far to avoid these cockroach commenters of the world-wide-web.

And then I put my big girl panties on and took it for what it was worth... nothing. And of course I later had to lash out at the anonymous commenter in a post. Just for chuckles, I thought I'd re-post that blog entry:

Below is a comment I received on MOB (my other blog) on the post where I announced "Death of a Pancreas":

Karen said...To encourage other parents like me by captioning your blog with "Death of a Pancreas"? How morbid and stupid is that? if your goal is to encourage and enlighten us who have kids with diabetes, you might want to be more positive and check your facts first. The pancreas DOES NOT EVEN DIE with diabetes. Geez.
December 2, 2008 7:26 PM

Here is my response:
Joanne said...Okay, so I was going to just delete the above comment since it most likely is a drive-by comment from a crazy, but on the off-chance that this person is being truthful about who she says she is, I'll address her rather snarky comment.

1) Believe me, I know EXACTLY what diabetes is. I've been living this hell for the past three months. But "Death of the Pancreatic Beta Cells in the Islets of Langerhans" just doesn't have the same ring to it. My daughter's pancreas has failed to function as it should, and to me, it feels like a death. TO ME. Got that? ME!

2) I'm so sorry that you are so easily offended by a simple blog title. If you really are a mother of a child with diabetes, you should know that the only way to not let this disease get you down is to have a sense of humour about it. You should read some of the things we joke about on the diabetes board I frequent. Actually, no you shouldn't. Your head just might explode from the offensiveness of it all.

3) Since you have blocked your ID, I have no way of knowing if you are a crazy or not. I have no animosity towards you, or your comment. I even welcome a response to my comment if you are so inclined. But please, you handle diabetes your way, and let me handle it my way... We're both (supposedly) fighting the same enemy anyway, right?

I was disappointed that she never came back to reply. My point is this; if you cannot find anything to laugh about while battling this horrific fight, then you are already beaten. If Elise grows up seeing me grim-faced all the time while giving her a shot, then that is how she's going to deal with it too. You need to show your child that their life will be what they make of it, not what diabetes makes of it. I choose to laugh at diabetes (when appropriate, of course), and respond in my own sarcastic way. It's how I deal, how I show diabetes that it's not the boss of me. So, you can choose to let diabetes bring you and everyone around you down, or you can face it with a smile, laugh, or maybe even a jig... because who on this earth can be sad while dancing a jig?

7 comments:

  1. I think DEATH OF A PANCREAS is very appropriate :)

    And I love it!

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  2. I remember the first time I saw the title of your blog and have always LOVED it! And you, too, my dear! :)

    Your sense of humor has brightened my day many times and I appreciate it so much!!

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  3. You know what i could not agree more with what wendy and amy said since they are my buds too . but you are so right on with the title death of a pancreas and that woman is obviously got a screw loose somewhere and thank god she was a one hit wonder . People like that just dont deserve any response at all . You keep rocking on little mama , cause you are a little mama .

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  4. Joanne, can I just say that I love you? Is it too soon in our relationship to say that? I think my response to that woman would have been exactly just the same!

    The title of your blog drew me to you initally...your sassiness and honesty have kept me coming back to visit ever since!

    You go girl! (That seems so 90's to say, but I mean it...seriously!)

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  5. What you don't know, is that in my last comment I wrote, "I think if we lived next to eachother we would be BFF's and laugh at everybody who didn't get our humor..."

    But I thought it was too much too soon. :)

    You are welcome here ANYTIME my friend. We are going away over Thanksgiving, but will be around the rest of the month!!

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  6. OMG this is sooo funny and sooo crazy look what I have missed in my business. I love the name of your blog and I always have, we just keep it real around here!!lol I can't believe how crazy and stupid people can be. I tell my 12 year old all the time when she is butting her head into situations "IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL" This lady defiantly was not Canadian!!! lol :)

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